October 13, 2017 by Cristina Oroz Bajo

Motherhood and Fatherhood Crisis: the true personal process in parenting.

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When you become a mother and father, people realize how incredible it will be, how fascinating it is to raise little people who are the extension of your senses, who give you everything that nothing can give you, but also take away your space, time and the meaning immersing you in an ocean of unimaginable changes.

You have to prepare for the incessant crying, the illnesses that squeeze your stomach, the dirty diapers, the seemingly endless chaos at home, tripping over toys wherever your foot lands, nights that last weeks or even months without sleep, arguing about looks, existential doubts, changes, changes and changes, rediscovering yourself while you rediscover your partner, changes in your social environment, your routine, your leisure, your priorities and preferences. All of these things also come with raising and being a mother and father and it's going to be very hard. In fact, we encounter many crises throughout this phase of motherhood that, if not overcome, can lead to a breakup, depression, stress... and all of this from the worst situation, faced with the greatest responsibility to act in an impeccable manner. , safe, cordial, sweet in the most demanding time of our lives.

You will be unpredictable, excessive, selfish, rude, disrespectful, capricious, impulsive, aggressive, expert... and on the other hand a fighter, strong, condescending, empathetic, model, negotiator, peacemaker, speaker, theoretical and practical. You can imagine the complex situation of parenting, of reaching the balance of all this by keeping the scale on the right side while uncontrolled weights continue to mount on both sides in seconds.

Think before you speak, talk without stopping, stop giving yourself oxygen, oxygenate yourself, with your partner or only with your children, learn not to be perfect, assume the mistakes that seem like stones that will never let you look your loved ones in the eyes again. children, your partner, your parents... mistakes that now have an impossible weight and digestion but that give you unmatched strength and growth. Think about the non-parallel process of the other, with opposite and even contrary rhythms and as distant as they are close. And do not make drastic decisions without taking an internal, external and global look at the situation and without having put all your fuel on the fire, criticizing yourself, changing, breathing and putting yourself next to the person who accompanies you, also fearful and brave in this process. . Give yourself a chance, because you have the tools, because madness is expecting different results by always doing, saying and breathing in the same way.

Give yourself importance as an instrument that generates change, oxygen, joy and peace because human power is something incredible and can handle the highest mountain, the biggest disappointment, disappointment and heartbreak, turning everything from within, from oneself, from you And never, never forget what you really want and whether what you do really goes in that direction or takes you away from it.

Cristina Oroz Bajo

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