For Mother's Day we wanted to do a different webinar at VICON. We wanted to pay tribute to all the mothers who are part of the great VICON Method community and we proposed that they spend a different afternoon with us.

An afternoon where you can disconnect and meet other mothers and other personal stories, above all, so that they could see that they are not alone and that we support each other. To listen to each other and learn from each other.

So let's look at the most key aspects that were discussed that afternoon.

What did we intend with this special WEBINAR for moms?

The time we wanted to share with the mothers of the Method was designed so that they could delve deeper into themselves . Because we are clear that we all have backpacks on our backs, with a few wounds that we carry from the road, many others that we have healed plus those that are to come. The uncertainty of what challenges are coming to us in the future.

So here you can find resources that will help you understand those backpacks that we have. Also to be able to clean them or look at them in a slightly different way, changing those feelings that sometimes accompany us too much of the way.

We are going to help you change perspectives, focus on objectives and give a doubt to how we project our future as mothers, as women, as sisters and as people.

For a start…

The first thing we have to understand as a life motto is that we are the most important thing in life itself . Where the decisions and projects are ours, as well as our dreams, and there will not be another opportunity that we know of to be able to fulfill them. Well, tomorrow is not guaranteed, and you better take the helm of this ship today (even if it sometimes slips out of your hands) and have the ability to take it back and direct it where you want, not where the storm will take you. carry.

Remember mom that the strength is there, and if we have made it to this day, we can go wherever we want.

Build your circle of trust

It is very important to surround ourselves with the right people, to build a circle of trust . Well, many times we try to please everyone and we may not be very selective with respect to the people around us.

There are four types of people in this world : those who subtract us, those who divide us, those who add us and those who multiply us . And without a doubt we have to be very clear about the people around us, who each one of them is.

At VICON we know that there are people who cannot be removed from our lives, but we can limit our exposure to them or limit their influence on us, and spend that time and energy on people who multiply us and do not add, or who give us a certain social and vital emotional stability.

Now, just like we choose people or at least moments with them. We can also choose our battles and this is very important at all levels.

As mothers, choosing battles with our children will make us relativize everything, as women choosing battles with our husbands will also mark a before and after and above all, when you choose your battles you are marking the path that is important to you.

What we mark will not understand the difference between the importance of each of them. So sometimes we have to take a step back and have the ability to choose the battles that are important to us.

Be kind to yourself

Many times when we deal with how we are, trying to find the path, restructure the objectives or improve as people and women …. That is, deal better with our problems . We always focus on what I am going to do and as important as knowing what I am going to do, is knowing what I am going to think and how I am treating myself.

What messages am I giving myself every day, what strength am I giving myself to achieve my goals or if, on the contrary, through my speeches I am diminishing my strength and making the goals further away every day.

At VICON we think that we are participants and actors in our own lives, but we have to know that the learning learned is the best support we can have . Well, it strengthens us and can help us grow.

Here comes a very interesting aspect, closely related to self-esteem: we have to trust that we are prepared for the next stage. We have to focus on the next objective, trusting that we will achieve it and achieve it with all our strength. They are messages that we always have to give ourselves.

The twists and turns of life…

Sometimes the avalanches of life lead us to situations that if we had analyzed them three years before or two years later... We would change them without hesitation!

Our agenda is full of obligations , full of activities that if we had the opportunity to stop for a moment and make a conscious choice, perhaps would not be there.

On the other hand, we have activities that we would add to our agenda without hesitation. But sometimes we allow ourselves to be guided by the tide of life and we fail to carry out this exercise of choosing people, choosing moments, choosing activities... Sometimes it seems that life does not have time, it does not have hours, but we assure you that it does. We take the time to stop and think about our agenda. The change we would suffer would be enormous.

Pay attention to your stress, give yourself time and learn to forgive yourself

Knowing ourselves gives us the tools to know how to detect in time the states through which we go through or can live.

Stress is a state that appears on many occasions and if it is not detected in time and redirected in time, it can lead us to more unpleasant pathological states.

Therefore, we recommend that you include favorite activities that de-stress you in your daily life. It is not a magic formula because everyone has to find their own, but it will become magical if we manage to adapt it to our reality. Because it will be the only way for it to be effective and powerful for us.

Along the same lines is learning to forgive yourself. In accepting that not everything is in our hands. This will make you lighten the weight of your backpacks and the heavy load that we put on our shoulders.

Sometimes they are not problems, they are realities and we have to accept them. This is the only process that can be carried out. So accepting that not everything is in our hands will free us from a lot of weight, burden, responsibility and guilt.

Little tricks that can help you

Breathing is one of the most necessary and obvious exercises we can do. For some it is meditation, for others it is stopping for a moment to contemplate myself, for others it means doing a physical sport , but we assure you that dedicating a few minutes a day to that simple act of breathing makes you really take emotional breath, social breath, vital breath. …

Normally, breathing repositions our body, redirects our mind, for that frenetic life in which we are almost like an amusement park living daily. Stop, breathe, breathe and breathe until you manage to connect with your limbic system, which is done naturally through breathing.

You don't need to do a very elaborate exercise, just breathe and take the time to breathe. If you do that at home and your children see you breathe, you already know what is going to happen. They will surely join this activity because that is how mirror neurons work, those responsible for copying everything that happens around us.

Listen as much as you can . It seems that human beings were born with two ears and one mouth because you have to listen twice as much as you talk. The exercise and introspection that people who know how to listen have is much greater than the profile of people who talk and talk and talk.

It can help you a lot to try to see what kind of people you are . Possibly, it depends on the environment you are in. To try to actively listen to and learn from our partners, our professionals, our families... We recommend that you try to block your thoughts while you do it.

Remove all our prejudices because sometimes we hear ourselves talking over ourselves, and the only ones capable of stopping that process are us, promoting active listening will provide more tools for response and improvement in dialogue.

Once we have made the diagnosis of our most recurrent invasive thoughts ... such as: what has happened to us, what I think or stop thinking, what I do and stop doing, so that this situation, what I want to change or not change. . . One piece of advice we give you is to try, through your thoughts and actions, not to control everything. The most important thing is to be aware of how we are functioning in those situations.

Once we have become aware, we have to do the exercise in the next step , what can I do or stop doing so that this situation improves or goes in the direction I want, and that second stage, what can I think or stop thinking so that this situation improves or goes wherever I want it to go. Let's say that it is first an awareness of where I am and what tools I have in this situation and then it is a projection, a landing to where I want this situation to take me using my thoughts and my actions.

Life as a couple…

It is just as important to take care of our children as it is to take care of our relationships. There we can almost say that the key and strength is in the family, how we manage to put ourselves back together after being parents, receiving a diagnosis, giving ourselves blows and blows and blows... We need someone to give us a hand to get up and sometimes it becomes a crossroads of differences in points of view that do not have enough time to align, understand or recompose.

It is very interesting to see the difference in the actions of a father and a mother , sometimes we recriminate because things are not done our way and it is impossible to always do it our way. You have to be clear that acceptance of the other's way is the only way to walk.

To finish…

All the aspects that are being discussed here are directly related to self-esteem. It may be the most weakened because we face many situations, because we avoid others, because we delegate to other people functions that we should be taking on ourselves, because we establish excess control with ourselves and with respect to others that leads us to perfectionism. which is harmful, because every time we try to make things perfect we delay doing them because they are not going to be perfect... That attitude of being available to everyone always and at any price, you have to know that they do not bring us anything.

That's why it's so important to enjoy the little things in life ... Like breathing, picking a flower from the ground, looking at the sea, or sitting on a bench to breathe for a while... These are activities that will make you be in tune with yourself. and change the attitude we have towards life.

Thinking that self-esteem is not a gift that some have and that others possess and others do not. It is not something that depends on luck, but rather it is an achievement in the process of acquiring self-esteem that begins in childhood and is formed over the years.

So mom and wife chase your dreams because it's not too late yet.

As we always tell you, we hope that all this helps you. Well, at VICON we care and take care of you mothers, your families and your children.

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